It's Not Just in the Bedroom

Modern day perception of the word bondage defaults to a sexual content. As a matter of fact, I guarantee 80% of you clicked the link just because of the title and the picture. Well I'm taking a deter.

I’m not talking about black leather thigh highs with chains and ties. By Bondage, I am referring to the things that we find ourselves being held hostage by, most of the time, without recognition. I find myself feeling the need to address these holds we keep clinging to like a security blanket, only, there is nothing SECURE about them!

Most are under a trance that they have MORE control over their lives as long as they control when to acknowledge these holds and when not to; if they acknowledge them at all. Only, enlightenment does not = change and by not giving these holds credit where credit is due, you’re actually prolonging the power to BREAK FREE.

I’ve watched people pray for a lighter load but check their e-mails throughout dinner. I’ve listened to people talk about wanting to get out of debt but eat two out of three meals at fast food restaurants. I’ve taken phone calls from friends who want x, y, & z in their relationship but fall victim to a cycle of verbal abuse and apologies. More importantly, I’ve been that person. So again, I’m not just typing for the sake of constructing words, I can most definitely relate to the mindset behind the hollow follow through. I just want to make everyone else aware that, you’re the only one who can put a stop to your own misery.

The thing is, you can’t make the change unless you want the change. And it's hard to want change if you don't know what's behind it (or after it). Most people are creatures of visualization. They can hear your story and while it may be great for entertainment purposes, it slowly fades from their memories with only a piece or two catching and imprinting in their mind. Until someone has seen and felt what else there is, change might as well be a “happily ever after.” It only exists in fairy tales.

I'll spare the details of the things I’ve overcome in this post. I won’t blather on about others I know who’ve succeeded. But what I will point out is that 9 out of 10 people have a HOLD within them and it always starts in the mind. When you decide you want something and you've started going after it but aren't seeing results you have to start breaking down your approach. If you're working out but not seeing any changes start looking at your diet too. Make certain the work out regimen you've selected is actually one that will target the areas you need work on.

Wanting anything in life is easy, it's the working for it where people began to drop off. Success doesn't come by wishing for it. If you're truly trying to change your habits and release whatever is holding you back (or whatever you're holding onto), try starting here:

• Identify

• Take Ownership

• Map it Out

• Stay consistent and persistent (commitment is everything)

So, what’s got your hands (or feet) tied?